Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Have you ever experienced those growth spurts in life where things can feel a bit messy? When both our work life and our romantic relationships are ready for growth, it's as if a volcano is nearing its eruption, leaving us wondering what’s fixable…
And when it's time to walk away.
Maybe you've found yourself questioning whether you're in the right job or with the right partner, asking yourself, "Is this right for me?"
I have good news for you.
This is not a bad place to be in…it merely means you are stepping up to growth and ready to take action on your future.
This internal inquiry simply signifies your growth and the desire for different things in life.
It may mean renegotiating your current situation or letting go and venturing into something new and more amazing–
Both of which are transformative spots to be in.
These are the choices that lead to our greatest expansion and often come with a period of indecision. 😅
I vividly remember a time when I was working at a job that was just exhausting.
At one point, I was certain that leaving this company was the only solution—
I wanted to rip off the bandaid and step away for my own sanity. Then, one day, I gathered the courage to express how I was feeling–which was terrifying.
I got to a place where I really felt I had nothing to lose.
When I spoke up, and shared where I felt my boundaries were being crossed and things shifted…like really shifted. I ended up staying with the role and being super happy with the decision. The life lesson for me here wasn’t to run—a pattern I was used to—but rather about using my voice. Things resolved once I let myself say what I wanted to say.
Each situation is different and very few choices you make in life are black and white. So, how can you discern when it's time to walk away without a word and when it's time to set some boundaries and speak your truth? 👇
Assess Your Patterns: That feeling of wanting to flee immediately AND the need to cling on to something for dear life can oftentimes be a response to unprocessed emotions or a nervous system reaction to discomfort.
Identify What Isn't Working: When you're in a clear headed space, take a step back and objectively examine what isn't working. Does this situation remind you of a past experience?
Clarify What You Truly Want: Be brutally honest with yourself and don't hold back. Does your current relationship or environment align with what you genuinely desire and what will genuinely bring you happiness?
Establish New Boundaries: Making choices about whether to leave or stay will involve setting new boundaries. You may be making changes to how things operate within the current context or, if necessary, deciding to leave. Recognize that ultimately, people want what's best for you, and only you can determine what that is.
The path to personal growth is unique for each individual. But learning how to trust ourselves is universal.
If you find yourself in the same old pattern, again and again and again, maybe there’s something else to learn from the situation you find yourself in. Sometimes the answer really is to step out and find some peace-rebuilding in a different way.
And here’s the best part… no matter what you choose, you can’t mess up.